ProvidenceMine is back!
So soon, you say?
Yep.
I have another thing that I want to rant about.
It's about the fans of a soap opera actress named Nancy Lee Grahn and her criticism over Viola Davis' speech on her Emmy win.
I know that this is old news, but so what. This really isn't about Ms. Grahn or Ms. Davis.
It's about Ms. Grahn's fans.
You see, Nancy Lee Grahn didn't like Viola Davis' speech about her historic win being for all black actresses, because it seemed to her like it was ignoring all actresses ( I guess those who looked like her ) while elevating black actresses and took to her displeasure on Twitter. Never mind the fact that Viola Davis is the very first black actress to win an Primetime Emmy for a Series ever.
Some people call it historic, while I call it pathetic. Just like Cardi B's historic Grammy win ( first female rapper to win ) and just like Kathryn Bigalow's historic win ( first female director to win an Oscar ). I call these wins pathetic because these wins took place very late in the game-the 21st Century, for crying out loud! Why did these wins take so fucking long?!
But, I'm getting besides myself.
When Ms. Grahn tweeted her criticism of the speech, what is known as Black Twitter criticized right back to the point where Ms. Grahn ended up apologizing for her questionable tweets.
Well, not long after that Ms. Grahn's fans took to Twitter and defended her right to free speech, claiming that she said nothing wrong and that this was America and she could say "what she fucking wants." Blah Blah Blah. The defense of their soap queen went on and on.
Can we just stop, please?
Of course, Ms. Grahn can say "whatever the fuck she wants." Of course, this is America.
That's the whole point.
Since when did people get so thin-skinned over criticism? When you embrace free speech, you take the risk of being criticized. That's the plain and simple fact. Criticism is, in today's world, seen as censorship and it is not. Clearly Ms. Grahn's fans don't know that. Even Right-Wringers like Ann Coulter are very well aware that speaking her mind is risky. She knows this, or she wouldn't be on so many debates and dialogues. She has been proven wrong and made foolish quite a bit, but she keeps coming back. There is even a picture of her backstage at some show somewhere holding up a handmade sign up to her chest that reads "Bring It On."
The price of free speech is being challenged. Ms. Grahn knew that and paid the price. If her fans are going to feign victimhood on behalf of a soap opera actress that they clearly live through, then maybe they shouldn't be on social media ( I left that joke years ago, albeit for different reasons ).
As a matter of fact, the only intelligent thing that one of her fans on Twitter tweeted was that they were going to stop dealing with Twitter.
Smart move.
Friday, July 17, 2020
Get Off My Back!
Hey!
ProvidenceMine here.
No, I'm not finished with the last chapter of my story just yet. Almost, though.
But, there is something that I need to get off of my chest because it annoys me to no end.
In recent years I have been seeing silly, makeshift hurried "studies" trying to tell me how, as a woman, I'm supposed to conduct myself in all things in sexuality and romance. These "studies" are generalized, the sample participants are always small and the studies usually don't even last a year to conduct. Now, I'm not going to go into great detail as to the particulars of these studies-what I will do is to mention them and tell you my feelings on them.
There is one three year old study that claims that women are happier in marriage if they are married to average or below average looking men, even going as far as to say that women are happier with men who don't look as good as they do. This stupid study was based on, listen up, 225 newlyweds.
Now, I ask you. Just how many newlyweds are around at any given time?
Let's put it this way-they are probably in the millions each year in this country alone.
So, tell me. How in the fuck can you come to such an inane conclusion with such a small sample of people.
There was another study done around the same time, I believe on a college campus, that unequivocally declared that women preferred what is known as a 'dad body,' which is a flabby out of shape body, over a body that is fit-firm, muscular and symmetrical.
Honestly, who writes this bilge?!
There seems to be this obsessive, sick need to try to tell women what it is that they are supposed to like sexually, which is obnoxious enough as it is. This obsessive fetish as of late has taken it a step further as it steers women into telling them that, not only do we not care about men's looks the way that men care about women's looks ( I've heard that nonsense all my life ) but that now we are supposed to actually PREFER unremarkable or ugly men.
I have something that I need to say on this matter, and that is...
BACK THE HELL OFF!
How dare you try to make me your pliable idiot.
I was not put here on this earth, nor is it my job nor duty, to make physically unremarkable men feel good. It should not always be about their egg-shell male fragility.
Women are individuals. There are women who do prefer men who are average to ugly, and there are women who, quite frankly, prefer men who are beautiful. There are also women who don't care one way or another. And, you know what? All of the above is just fine, thank you very much.
These "studies" seem to make it a point to lump all women into one malleable pile of clay, and in the age of MGTOWs and MRAs this is, not only maddening, but disturbing.
So, this strong proud woman would like you to do her a big favor...
GET OFF MY BACK!
Don't tell me that I prefer the 'nice' guy who might not have the looks but who has the heart. What the hell does that even mean?! Don't try to tell me that guys who are not good looking have more to offer and are not shallow like their good looking counterparts. How in the Name of God could you know this?! People are individuals. Stop generalizing.
I will never apologize for preferring the newly trim and chiseled Chris Pratt over the fat and doughy one.
Sorry. Well, no I'm not sorry.
This is how I feel and it's simply how it is.
You will not continue to police my sexuality, and you will not guilt me about my sexual preference. Each woman has a right to how they feel and what they like-whether that woman prefers a Jean-Claude Belmondo, a Hugh Laurie, or an Anson Mount-her sexuality is her own and not yours. It is not in service to satisfy your bogus agenda. Know this...
...and know this well.
Women are of their own sexual agency.
Period.
ProvidenceMine here.
No, I'm not finished with the last chapter of my story just yet. Almost, though.
But, there is something that I need to get off of my chest because it annoys me to no end.
In recent years I have been seeing silly, makeshift hurried "studies" trying to tell me how, as a woman, I'm supposed to conduct myself in all things in sexuality and romance. These "studies" are generalized, the sample participants are always small and the studies usually don't even last a year to conduct. Now, I'm not going to go into great detail as to the particulars of these studies-what I will do is to mention them and tell you my feelings on them.
There is one three year old study that claims that women are happier in marriage if they are married to average or below average looking men, even going as far as to say that women are happier with men who don't look as good as they do. This stupid study was based on, listen up, 225 newlyweds.
Now, I ask you. Just how many newlyweds are around at any given time?
Let's put it this way-they are probably in the millions each year in this country alone.
So, tell me. How in the fuck can you come to such an inane conclusion with such a small sample of people.
There was another study done around the same time, I believe on a college campus, that unequivocally declared that women preferred what is known as a 'dad body,' which is a flabby out of shape body, over a body that is fit-firm, muscular and symmetrical.
Honestly, who writes this bilge?!
There seems to be this obsessive, sick need to try to tell women what it is that they are supposed to like sexually, which is obnoxious enough as it is. This obsessive fetish as of late has taken it a step further as it steers women into telling them that, not only do we not care about men's looks the way that men care about women's looks ( I've heard that nonsense all my life ) but that now we are supposed to actually PREFER unremarkable or ugly men.
I have something that I need to say on this matter, and that is...
BACK THE HELL OFF!
How dare you try to make me your pliable idiot.
I was not put here on this earth, nor is it my job nor duty, to make physically unremarkable men feel good. It should not always be about their egg-shell male fragility.
Women are individuals. There are women who do prefer men who are average to ugly, and there are women who, quite frankly, prefer men who are beautiful. There are also women who don't care one way or another. And, you know what? All of the above is just fine, thank you very much.
These "studies" seem to make it a point to lump all women into one malleable pile of clay, and in the age of MGTOWs and MRAs this is, not only maddening, but disturbing.
So, this strong proud woman would like you to do her a big favor...
GET OFF MY BACK!
Don't tell me that I prefer the 'nice' guy who might not have the looks but who has the heart. What the hell does that even mean?! Don't try to tell me that guys who are not good looking have more to offer and are not shallow like their good looking counterparts. How in the Name of God could you know this?! People are individuals. Stop generalizing.
I will never apologize for preferring the newly trim and chiseled Chris Pratt over the fat and doughy one.
Sorry. Well, no I'm not sorry.
This is how I feel and it's simply how it is.
You will not continue to police my sexuality, and you will not guilt me about my sexual preference. Each woman has a right to how they feel and what they like-whether that woman prefers a Jean-Claude Belmondo, a Hugh Laurie, or an Anson Mount-her sexuality is her own and not yours. It is not in service to satisfy your bogus agenda. Know this...
...and know this well.
Women are of their own sexual agency.
Period.
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